Dad of Divas' Reviews: Book Review - Love & Respect in the Family

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Book Review - Love & Respect in the Family

Love & Respect in the Family

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About the Book
Children need love. Parents need respect.

It is as simple and complex as that!

When frustrated with an unresponsive child, a parent doesn’t declare, “You don’t love me.” Instead the parent asserts, “You are being disrespectful right now.” A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts. When upset a child does not whine, “You don’t respect me.” Instead, a child pouts, “You don’t love me.” A child needs to feel loved, especially during disputes.

But here’s the rub: An unloved child (or teen) negatively reacts in a way that feels disrespectful to a parent. A disrespected parent negatively reacts in a way that feels unloving to the child. This dynamic gives birth to the FAMILY CRAZY CYCLE.

So how is one to break out of this cycle? Best-selling author Emerson Eggerichs has studied the family dynamic for more than 30 years, having his Ph.D. in Child and Family Ecology. As a senior pastor for nearly two decades, Eggerichs builds on a foundation of strong biblical principles, walking the reader through an entirely new way to approach the family dynamic. For instance, God reveals ways to defuse the craziness with our children from preschooler to teen, plus how to motivate them to obey and how to deal with them when they don’t. In the Bible, God has spoken specifically to parents on how to parent. This book is about that revelation.

My Take on the Book
This is a great book that shares some amazing parenting advice for all readers. I loved how practical the book was and how each chapter is set up to assist the reader in so many ways to be a better parent in the end. The book was well written and easy to understand and read. I appreciated the authors' examples that he gives, as they were quite personal, but also scenarios that I can completely relate to in my own family!

I will not say that Dr. Eggerichs is saying that his techniques will be easy, but they are necessary for balance to remain within a home, and the advice he provides is sound and sage and I am already trying different ideas from the book after only a few days and they seem to be working so far.

Any parent can gain some great skills by reading this without worry of feeling that you are being talked down to. Instead, the book is here to lift you up and help you be the best parent that you can be!

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