“We tend to look at the situation of bullying, and not so much at the bully him- or herself,” explains Peter J. Goodman, author of the book “We’re All Different But We’re All Kitty Cats.” “But if we had a chance to peek into the mind of the bully, we might be surprised at some of the things we would learn.”
There are some things that bullies don’t want people to know, including:
- They aren’t sure about the best way to communicate their feelings. Usually, there is something that a bully wants, but they tend to go about trying to get it in the wrong way. While people have typically thought that bullies were never the popular kids, for example, research shows that they are often popular kids. They tend to bully because they are trying to look good to their peers, and become even more popular.
- They may be hurting inside and want you to hurt, too. Some kids who bully don’t feel good about themselves and may be bullying others to help offset their own feelings. Bullies usually want to feel stronger. Bullying others makes them feel stronger and more powerful. Bullies, especially those who bully to raise their social status, want desperately to fit in with their peers and be accepted.
- They are probably bullying people in the home, too. If someone is a bully at school, there is also a good chance they are bullying someone in the home, such as a sibling. Research published in the British Journal of Developmental Psychology found that children who bully at school are likely also bullying their siblings in the home.
- They have probably also been bullied, somewhere along the way. Some children who bully have learned the behavior at home. Research has found that many children who bully have seen such behavior in the home, or are more likely to have been exposed to violence in the home.
- They probably sought you out because they thought you were weak. According to the American Psychological Association, a typical victim is sensitive, quiet, withdrawn, shy, insecure, has low self-esteem, and appears physically weaker than the bully. Those students who appear not to have at least one good friend are often seen as easy targets by bullies.
According to the National Institutes of Health, bullying takes place when someone repeatedly tries to harm someone that they believe is weaker. It can take multiple forms, including physical (e.g., hitting, kicking, pushing, etc.), verbal (e.g., threatening, teasing, etc.), and social (e.g., rumors, exclusion, etc.). In recent years, cyber-bullying has also become more widespread; this involves bullying through the use of electronic means, including online and through text messaging.
About the Book
A kitty cat with no fur? How strange thought the other cats, laughing and giggling at Carlos. Hurt and embarrassed in front of the class,he sits down at his desk and begins to cry.
After class, the school bully, Vinny, picks on Carlos. When two of his classmates witness this event, they stand up for him. With the support of his mother and teacher, Carlos finds something on the inside that makes him just as unique as he is on the outside. And as he gains confidence, he also gains friends.
As the story unfolds, the reader will see how Carlos deals with and overcomes his insecurity and ultimately triumphs in the end.
Set in schoolroom situations that every child will recognize, a gaggle of feline friends shows the way to respect and friendship as Carlos the hairless cat faces the challenge of being different. T
The first in a series that brings adults and children together to discuss important social issues, the book includes discussion prompts and fun facts for parents to facilitate engagement and learning at storytime. A charming story told in brightly-written prose with popping illustrations, children will be entertained as they discover with Carlos and his schoolmates that what matters most is that we are all different, and this means we all share something in common.
The book has been written for children in pre-kindergarten through the third grade. The earlier children learn about the importance of preventing bullying, the better. To learn more about the book series, or to purchase the volume that addresses bullying, visit www.kittycatsbook.com.
My Take on the Book
Being bullied or made fun of is never fun, and can deeply hurt a child emotionally. A child can easily retreat within themselves and not venture forward due to the fear of rejection. This book tackles these topics and kids will be able to relate to the feelings of Carlos as well as be inspired by his ability to bounce back and rise above the teasing and bullying that he encounters. This is a great book for all parents to share with their children as it provides great messages and talking points to discuss regarding bullying, and how one should treat another, as well as how to react to someone that may be bullying them. I highly recommend this book to all!
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