When Elizabeth Hanley talks about problem solving, you can hear, see and feel the passion of her convictions. She shines.
She was faced with a layoff from a dream job, evicted from her rental place and the writing was on the wall with her boyfriend at the same time. She was so down and depressed she took off from work, crawled in bed and hid beneath the covers. She slept till noon and finally switched on the TV and through her tears heard Dr. Phil ask if, ‘if you were the owner of your own business and you had a manager who was running the business into the ground, would you keep hiring them or fire that person?’
Then continued: ‘You are the manager of your life, are you getting the results you want out of life? Are you achieving happiness, health, success or are you miserable, unhealthy and feel like a failure? Would you keep hiring yourself or would you fire yourself?’
“Oh I am so fired!” she realized, and the light bulb went on when he explained ‘you need to require more of yourself’. She realized she needed to fire the old me and get the new me started on better managing her life. Being a librarian, she embarked on a nearly obsessive research effort that would bring about a personal evolution and transformation.
Her new book, No Problem! How to Focus on Solutions captures the wisdom and essence of her most important and helpful discoveries and guidance about how to thrive and not just survive.
“Problems were sucking the joy out of my life and I was letting it happen. After sinking into and soaking up the works and teachings of the many masters I found, I came to the conclusion that I could simplify what I needed to do into four simple tips. This became my basic simple ‘problem solving guide’ which I could use for the more tricky problems”.
Here they are:
- Define – see it as it is.
- Own – take control and feel the power.
- Truth - see the truth and the path to a solution becomes clearer.
- Balance - see the bigger picture, so problems will not keep you stuck in a rut.
One of the most important things she realized is this:
“You do not react to the events in your life – you react to your thinking about the event.”
When you jump into your car, it’s a given that someone is going to make a mistake and cause a problem. You can expect that and accept that it is going to happen. The real question is how you are going to react to them.
Using the four tips help move you from negative thinking onto helpful thinking more quickly and easily so you can focus on solutions. You can wake up each morning and say to yourself that you know problems are going to happen. You can say to yourself that you won’t let them control you. Then you can take control and focus on the solutions to the problem with a cool head.
There will always be problems. Live with them, not in them.
About the Author
Elizabeth Hanley is a Librarian who has worked in public and educational libraries and some specialist libraries. She has a degree in Library and Information Science from Queensland University of Technology, Australia.
My Take on the Book
This is a great book that put life into perspective. I was impressed with the way in which the other wrote and drew in her readers! The book was engaging and down-to-earth. The book also offers such simple problem solving techniques that all can adopt and enact in your lives immediately. I also enjoyed the places where you can stop and reflect throughout the book, as this made me think deeper about myself and what the book was telling me. I know that this book will change your life as I know that I am already using the techniques in this book now and that was only on one read through!
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